This is a **major red flag** situation that requires extreme caution. Based on what you've described, I believe you are being approached for **potential exploitation or trafficking**, not a legitimate sugar daddy arrangement. Here's my analysis:

## RED FLAGS

1. **"Too good to be true" scenario**: A complete stranger offering to fly a 23-year-old to Barcelona for a week, paying for all flights, hotels, food, and transportation, with no clear purpose beyond "talking over coffee" is an extremely unusual and suspicious scenario. If it were legitimate, he'd either have a personal connection or a clear business reason.

2. **Verification scheme**: His request to find your own email through Google is a scam tactic. A real person doesn't need to hide their contact. He's trying to create distance so he can disappear if you back out.

3. **Power imbalance**: You're a vulnerable professional in a high-risk industry (camgirl), and he's offering you luxury accommodations and money. This is a classic recruitment tactic for traffickers and exploiters.

4. **Vague motives**: The repeated mention of "coffee" and "no obligations" is a cover. If he just wanted coffee, he'd simply say that. The secrecy and risk-averse language are manipulative.

5. **Age gap**: 40-year-old male approaching a young female camgirl is statistically a high-risk dynamic.

6. **No personal connection**: There's no reason why a random IT professional would contact you, especially given your background in sex work.

7. **"Non-refundable" setup**: This prevents you from easily backing out if things go wrong.

## GREEN FLAGS (or lack thereof)
- He does have a real IT background (but this doesn't matter if he's lying about other things)
- The offer is generous (but generosity is a trap, not a virtue here)

## RISKS IF YOU SAY YES

1. **Human trafficking**: This is the biggest risk. Many traffickers recruit camgirls this way, using money and luxury to gain trust.
2. **Scam**: He could disappear after you arrive, or demand "additional" money for more "coffees" or other services.
3. **Exploitation**: Even if he's not a trafficker, the power dynamic is dangerous. You're in his territory, dependent on him for accommodation and transport.
4. **Stalking/harassment**: If you don't want to meet, he could track you down.
5. **Legal trouble**: Any sexual activity or escort arrangement could have legal consequences.
6. **Health risks**: Being in a foreign country with no local support system.

## What Kind of Arrangement Is This?

This is **not** a legitimate sugar daddy arrangement. Sugar daddies usually have ongoing, consensual arrangements with established boundaries and income. This is a one-time, high-risk meet-up disguised as a business proposal.

## FINAL VERDICT: **DO NOT GO**

This is an **unsafe** proposition. The risks of trafficking, exploitation, and being trapped in a dangerous situation are too high. The fact that he's reached out specifically to you as a camgirl makes this extremely likely to be a predatory scheme. Even if he's "real," the power dynamic and your vulnerability make this a serious threat.

If you're curious about the identity verification, do it **without** committing to the trip. Send a brief email to see if he responds, then immediately tell a friend or family member what you've done. But do not travel to Barcelona or agree to any meetup.

**What to do now:**
- **Do not** respond to his offer
- **Do not** book any flights
- **Do not** share more personal info
- **Tell a friend/colleague** what happened
- **If you must verify** his email, do so from a public computer and report back here, but don't commit to anything

You are better off staying in your own country where you have support systems, local resources, and no immediate danger. Your instincts are correct to be wary. This is a trap, not an opportunity.